The good news is that, once one spouse takes the initiative, a troubled marriage can be turned around even if the other partner is averse and even hostile. When you have taken this essential first move and fully commited yourself to rescuing the marriage you should move back and consider the wider perspective of the relationship. Make an effort to identify what has truly gone bad in the relationship. Do not apportion blame but concentrate on the matters that are just not working, for one or both of you. Consider all aspects of your lives together and focus on what actually needs to be resolved. Attempt to do this as dispassionately as possible so that you can come to an accurate analysis of what is destroying the marriage. Then you need to communicate. This could be challenging but it must be done and you shouldn’t hurry it. Both spouses must be frank and to be ready to accept what has gone bad, on both sides. And then they need to negotiate to handle how clashes could best be averted in the long run. This will need goodwill and flexibility from both husband and wife.